Ten days ago, a local teenager changed the cover of her Facebook page.
In September, the cover showcased characters from “Supernatural.”
On Oct. 5, it was changed to a photo displaying the sun shining from behind clouds with the steeple from a church near the bottom.
The girl who changed her Facebook page took her own life the morning of Oct. 15, 2013.
I wonder if she knew what she was going to do today?
Nonetheless, the affects of her suicide are rocking a small community in Lorain County, Ohio.
I sat at my computer today, listening to an automated message left by the school’s superintendent. I only caught a few words, but they were enough to have me, as a mother, on edge.
“Letter being sent home today.”
“Discuss with your child(ren).”
The journalist in me wanted to know what was going on in my small, farming community.
I knew it wasn’t “good news,” but I didn’t for a second think it would be devastating news either.
So many friends are trying to figure what happened in her life that would prompt her to end it so soon.
Others are trying to figure out how they can possibly help a family cope during their time of grief.
Every day, our children enter an environment we as parents “believe” to be safe.
But sadly, our schools aren’t what they used to be.
There are shootings, terrorist attacks and bullies.
There is speculation into what may have prompted this young girl to take her own life.
If it was because of bullying, I can’t begin to fathom how the students who “caused” this to happen are living with themselves tonight. The extreme guilt I would feel if it were me would eat me alive.
We have all heard about “mean girls” and we know they invade every single school in America. No school is immune to such girls. And, it may not even be that these girls (or even boys) knew what they were doing. Sometimes it’s just a look, a stare, a glance, a sneer or a comment from a “mean girl” that can make a teenager feel less important.
My piece of advice today is this:
“Make good choices every day” and SMILE at someone.
Smile at a stranger to make them feel important.
A smile can convey happiness.
A smile can convey a sense of “You know, I am OK and everything will get better.”
A smile can offer HOPE where there is none.
A smile may save a life.