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A Letter to the High School “It” Girls:

Twenty years ago, I took my final walk on the track of my high school as I received my diploma.

You didn’t know me then and you don’t know me now.

You never even bothered to ask my name.

To you, I was invisible. A nothing.

But today, I am here to prove you wrong. To tell you that your silence spoke volumes.

I never really wanted to be a part of your group, but the least you could have done was at least pretend that I existed. That I mattered.

I was afraid of you. Afraid that you would never accept me for the person I was in high school. I wasn’t cool and popular like you were. We didn’t click in your clique.

But then something amazing happened.

I graduated from high school and forgot you existed until about six months ago when I saw your name appear on a Facebook posting announcing our 20 year class reunion.

I graduated from high school and left the “old Melissa” behind. She stayed in high school. But, in college, she blossomed. She found people that belonged in her own clique. She found people that accepted her for what she is and what she would become later on in life.

Simply put, she flourished.

Eventually, she accepted a job with a local newspaper. Today, she is an award-winning journalist. She has won awards for her columns and newspaper stories that touched thousands of people.

But, will that even matter to you? Do you even care?

My guess is no.

You are still stuck on yourself. You still think you rule the roost. You still think being cool and popular 20 years later makes a difference.

It doesn’t.

What matters is I have a loving spouse, three children and a life that pales in comparison to what you thought I would ever become.

Sure, you have a kid now and I hoped that you may have changed. But no, you are still striving to be the most popular girl on the block … and I don’t want to be anywhere near your or your block.


About the author:

Melissa Linebrink is a reporter/bi-monthly columnist for “The Mommy Wars” printed in The Chronicle-Telegram. She has been featured as a blogger on the Erma Bombeck Writers’ Conference site, She also writes, edits and manages her blog, She can be reached at





1 thought on “A Letter to the High School “It” Girls:”

  1. This is exactly the truth for so many of us. Once I left high school i never looked back and am pretty successful without ever speaking to those snots. In fact most of the “it” grils aren’t exactly “it” anymore. After high school people mature and we realize,the popular girl or it girl doesnt exist. #greatarticle

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